kigmanch asked:
one incident or several? or one aspect of raising children in general?
one incident or several? or one aspect of raising children in general?
this is not to offend anyone also. just trying to gain a diff perspective.
what i mean is what would YOU do differntly as parents? what is one thing you would teach your kids that you didnt if you could go back in time? how would you deal with situations differently?
Tonya
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I would get rid of our TV
the firts thing i would like to do is take away the tv and the computer, they spend to much time in front of them and they miss a lot of thing such as spending time playing outdoors, or being with their family.
I’m not sure I’d change anything. Even my mistakes have been learning experiences. I’m not above apologizing to my kids or accepting their input if they think me and Daddy goofed up. We raise them strickly, but we value their input too. So many things I might change would change them or me and I’d not have my kids different for anything. I’m not supermom by any stretch of the imagination, I just like who my kids are and who they’ve taught us as parents to be.
I would also take the tv out of the home. I would keep the computer as it can be used as an educational aid. There are many more things I would change, but I’ll stick to just listing this.
Nothing, to be honest. You have to make mistakes, so you can re-evaluate what you’re doing and try to be a better parent. Just like anything else in life, you gain experience as you go and hopefully learn how to do it better next time!
We took the TV out of our home a year and a half ago and it was the best thing we ever did. We get offered free ones all the time because people think that maybe we don’t have one cause we can’t afford one lol. My children are much more creative, help more with housework (the oldest is 5 and loves it) and they are best friends. I would suggest that if you and your spouse agree to it, don’t let it be your biggest regret when they are teens.
I would contain my anger better by walking away and not making punishment decisions until I thought them through instead of threatening something that I know I don’t want to follow through with. I would also have never allowed my kids to watch tv. My kids watch tv once a week, for movie day and let me tell you, it is TOO much. We didn’t allow my daughter to watch tv till she was 14 mths old and we have always kept close tabs on it. The times when we are sick or fall back on it, the kids turn into demons and it is hard to trim them back into shape.
I would watch the mouths of the people I have put him around. Been around less sarcastic people. People who have ruined the chance for my child to have a normal conversation. Immediate family and myself included. I would not be so topsy turvy with my emotions, and let him be more of a child. And I would have kept him away from certain older peers that have done nothing but mess with him and put him down.
I would wish that I could have answered this question like some others that said they would not change a thing.
I’m trying towards these goals now.
One thing I would absolutely change is teaching my kids how to be organized. My teenager and my 9 year old loose their homework, books, etc. all the time. In fact my teenager is struggling with highschool due to a lack of organization–that came from his teachers and his guidance counselor.
I feel so bad about this, I myself lack organizational skills today and have no idea how to fix it and stay on top of it. How can I get onto my kids for not being organized, when I can’t manage it myself?
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