mia asked:
The more I see around me the more I am convinced when I marry & have kids inshaAllah I do not want to raise them here in the united states. people always say no matter where you live you can have an Islamic home , and there is no Islamic country… but it seems things here are getting worse. there seem to be no limits in the schools and in society. My mother has said that faith is the only armor you can give your children in this life , and I agree. I think that to give children a chance to learn right and wrong and be with thier uma is a much better way to start out thier life.
Fernando
The more I see around me the more I am convinced when I marry & have kids inshaAllah I do not want to raise them here in the united states. people always say no matter where you live you can have an Islamic home , and there is no Islamic country… but it seems things here are getting worse. there seem to be no limits in the schools and in society. My mother has said that faith is the only armor you can give your children in this life , and I agree. I think that to give children a chance to learn right and wrong and be with thier uma is a much better way to start out thier life.
Fernando
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i think it’s okay..as long as u keep ur faith..
in fact,i think it’s better..
as for me.in malaysia..there’s no much change
in muslim country people are trying 2 show that their religion is better and i think children should stay away from these fights.
good luck
Ameen sister. I am also Muslim and though I do not have children my husband and I have already decided to go back home to Saudi Arabia when he gets his degree next year. We don’t like the USA because of all the promiscuous women and the haraam things here. We also don’t like the Government or how the American people treat us or our fellow brothers and sisters in Islam here as terrorists suspects. So that is why we would feel more at home in my husband’s home country raising our children among fellow Muslims and not having to worry about them being subjected to Christian teachings and non Islamic ways.
ASA, I am the mother of eight wonderful Muslim children, we are American all born and raised, my parents are not Muslims and I converted 13 years ago when my three oldest boys were just babies, many years later we have faced all the ups and downs possible in establishing a Muslim home. What I can tell you is to expect adversity and be prepared for anything, but running from this country to another especially with the political climate you will not be able to find a haven your going to need to establish a haven, first by the example you set as parents, then by the rewards and opportunities you afford your children to combat this fast decline in moral values. Our children will be isolated, and stereotyped but if you move to another country then they will be seen as Americans, outsiders….I had to decide weather i wanted my children to lead a revolution for American Muslims or be castigated for their American heritage….
It sounds like it would be harder on you, but if you can create strong enough bonds of family and faith with your children, you can hopefully keep them close to your ways instead of allowing their non-Islamic peers to pull them away.
You don’t want to make them feel trapped either. If you’re too strict, their teenage rebellion will make them want to break away from the faith and even the family. So, I’d say that raising a child in any religion in a region where there are numerous religious options takes a combination of being both rigid and flexible on behalf of the parents.
I’m not a Muslim, but there are a lot of things in my culture that I don’t like, and I know I’m going to have to use a strong hand to guide my children down the right path.
inshALLAH everything will be ok… just keep your faith in GOD and may GOD bless u all!