hweb asked:
We’ve been at this for 4 years, have 3 kids and I get one “normal” month out of three. The other two we are on opposite shifts and I am alone with the kids, he’s either at work or sleeping. I am at my wits end.
Brent
We’ve been at this for 4 years, have 3 kids and I get one “normal” month out of three. The other two we are on opposite shifts and I am alone with the kids, he’s either at work or sleeping. I am at my wits end.
Brent
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I am almost in the same boat. My husband is a cop and tries to work often to stay from home. I work days he works nights majority. I have got suggestions to just start planning things to do just spare of the moment when he will definitely be home, don’t act mean about it though then every once in a while try and plan like a small trip somewhere together so that you will be able to have time to reconnect too. Every couple needs that time.
Either this is the life you love or the life you ****. There is no in between when it comes to kids. Either you enjoy raising them or you don’t. Just remember, you are in this marriage as a partnership with him. You two have to work together to make things work. That even includes you too. If that is the only job he can get, then make it work. Don’t hinder him, nag him or upset him all the time about it. In this world we have today, it is hard to find a good paying job and be able to keep it. Be glad he has one and he is supporting his family the best way he knows how. Quit being a baby and be a wife and mother to your family.
My wife works out well, she never complained when I rotated and now I stay home with her and we love, play, work, live, and enjoy each other all day. She is the perfect wife. Just be patient, sometimes it’s hard.
Single parents do it all the time.
Remember sometimes you do have to sacrifice for your children, and that is work if one of you can consider quitting and staying home you can raise your kids like that, otherwise you need to talk to your husband about the strain you are feeling. Men are sometimes oblivious to what others need, so tell him. Good luck to you both.
Between sleeping and working he has time off.
When he has time off make it family time.
And make sure you get a few hours alone to do what you want….otherwise you’ll lose it.