Comments on: Does any parent have the right to tell another parent that they aren’t raising their kids right?

By: Bonnie "DuVall" Prater

Bonnie "DuVall" Prater — Sat, 16 Jun 2007 20:39:26 +0000

Aside from Freedom of Speech….NO.

By: olschoolmom

olschoolmom — Sat, 16 Jun 2007 06:49:08 +0000

I agree with Biz. Here in America, you have the right to suggest anything you want to someone. In turn that person has the right to decide what to do with that advise.

Now when someone comes to an open forum such as Yahoo Q&A, naturally they ask questions, seeking answers. The answers given are usually opinions, sometimes backed up be a source. Many answers are not easy suggestions, however that is what the answerer is suggesting, the asker can do what they want with it.

By: chelsie

chelsie — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 21:29:25 +0000

I do notice since I am new to this Yahoo that there are people who strongly feel that their way is the highway or else. They continually will fight to be right.
They bring out all sorts of information to back up their views and whenever someone disagrees, look out.
Sometimes it looks like they post a question for the sole purpose to cause debates.
I like to just help out with the knowledge that I know from experience.
I studied to be a lactation consultant, have nursed my babies and had every complication out there so I like to help those moms who are having a tough time.

If I can help, it makes my day.
Someone who feels good about themselves really don’t need to put down other’s values right?
Ignore the wierdos, they don’t deserve your time.
It should be all about fun and helping.

By: ~Biz~

~Biz~ — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 17:32:45 +0000

This is an irrelevant question. Of course they have a right – not only to tell somebody what they think, but also to do as they see fit for their own kids, ignore the words of others, burn a flag…..

If you don’t think people have the right to give their opinions to others, what in the hell are you doing on Y!A? You’re barking up the wrong tree here, pal. That’s the whole point of this site.

And just like with everything else in America – you don’t have to like it. But in this case you do have to accept it, or remove yourself from it. Here’s how to cancel your account:

By: Cat

Cat — Mon, 11 Jun 2007 10:38:23 +0000

I think that it’s ok to give advice or take advice but i do not think its ever ok to tell another parent that they are doing a horrible job ect!!!! I believe a person SHOULD step in and say something when abuse ect are involved tho you said aside all that… I get older women who tell me all the wrongs i’m doing but i never hear any rights LOL I think i’m doing an ok job… but hey ya never know right..
Spanking: Wrong… only because 90% of people do it out of anger… and i don’t htink you teach your child not to hit n all by hitting them.
Working moms: RIGHT it’s a mom’s choice.. it stinks when they don’t have a choice but i see nothing wrong with a mom working outside of the home!!!!
Beauty pageants: WRONG? I don’t like the idea of little kids competing against each other… when we are trying to teach them it’s whats on the inside that matters more… Especially if they are FORCED into it.. if they WANT TOO then let em:)
Bottlefeeding: RIGHT some mothers CAN”T breastfeed, others choose not too.. it’s a personal choice… yeah they say ****** feeding is better but it’s not if the mother is uncomfortable with doing it… and it won’t benefit the child if the momma is not happy doing it
Teaching religion: RIGHT If a parent has strong beliefs i see nothing wrong with them teaching their child those beliefs… I do however think that they shouldn’t push it on other children or other parents…. That would be liket elling one parent they aren’t doing it right!!! LOL You ask GREAT questions I look forward to reading more in the future:)

By: auntie s

auntie s — Sat, 09 Jun 2007 09:43:59 +0000

everybody has the right to say what they like ,it doesn’t mean they have to say it though , we recently moved and my new neighbors are what you might call the “wrong way parents ” but we would never tell them to their face and i would not leave my kids with them , when my kids want to play with there kids i make time so i can supervise ,for example my kids 8 and 2 are not allowed to play with knives (real knives not plastic sharp too ) climb on the roof of my car , jump on the beds ,let me correct that DIVE off bed on to a pile of clothes thats on the hard wood floor ,neither can they climb on the stove or sit on the stove ,light fires in buckets , etc i think your getting my point but my neighbors kids 3 and 5 can, even my 8 year old son is shocked at the stuff their allowed to do, but it’s not my place to say there wrong , my neighbors are nice people it’s a nice neighbor hood there kids are just allowed the freedom to do as they please when they please and how they please to each his own but i sure wouldn’t leave my kids with them for a night out or something (which they have offered but we have declined) i also don’t think i am perfect no parent is but i am doing a good job and as for experience i was a child social worker (investigator) for 11 years and worked in behaviorial foster care for 6 years so i do have a little additional experience under my belt also i am older which i think helps with being more to content to being home and embracing a family atmosphere

By: kingskid1961

kingskid1961 — Sat, 09 Jun 2007 01:33:13 +0000

There are good parents and there are bad ones but who is to say who is good and who is bad, no person has a right to tell another how to raise their children. The first parent or otherwise who would tell me how to raise my kids would find themselves facing my wrath and I assure you this won’t be pretty.

By: Kimmie

Kimmie — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 16:12:19 +0000

We all learn to parent from our own parents. We learn what worked with us and what didn’t and we apply that to our own lives with our own children.

No parent has any right to judge another parent on any grounds. I’ve said it many times and I will say it again, someone already has that job and I sure as heck am glad it ain’t me. I may not agree with the way other people parent their kids but it is their life.

I try my best to provide information on here, I try to give suggestions about what has worked for me. I don’t ever try to pass judgment on another person. When it comes to spanking, that is a delicate issue with me because many people spout off old and outdated psychological studies that have all been proven wrong very recently. I don’t judge them, I simply try to educate them if they ask.

You are right, there is NO perfect parent other than our Father who art in Heaven. I have been judged many times on how I raise my children, the types of movies I let them watch, the music I let them listen to, and I have been called an unGodly woman for it all many times. Only He can judge me and only He can judge others.

By: Louise

Louise — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 03:04:38 +0000

the answer is rather simple , no. other than that your thinking about this way too much.

By: melissa s

melissa s — Mon, 04 Jun 2007 07:56:21 +0000

Putting abuse and neglect aside, I don’t think any of the other things matter as long as you parent with love, consistency in discipline no matter what method you use, if you make your decisions out of love and true caring for your child’s well being I have issues that i believe in strongly but i do not judge others for disagreeing with me, and don’t think in the whole scheme of things that most issues matter, as long as your motivation is love for your child, also there isn’t a wrong or right way only different ways, again a good parent is one who loves there child no more no less, a good parent is open to learn and hear others opinion, and not afraid to change there minds if it’s in there child’s best interest, I wish people had been kinder to me when i had my first, but i can handle opinions from others now, i enjoy hearing what they have to say, but the majority of people judging parents are people with no children at all