FYRE & REIGN asked:
It’s tough when kids bounce back and forth between Dad and Mom’s house, especially if the rules aren’t the same in both homes (ah, why do some parents want to be a kid’s pal instead of the kid’s parent?) There’s tons of books in the self-help area of Barnes & Noble but who has the time and money to read them all? Got a favorite?
Melissa
It’s tough when kids bounce back and forth between Dad and Mom’s house, especially if the rules aren’t the same in both homes (ah, why do some parents want to be a kid’s pal instead of the kid’s parent?) There’s tons of books in the self-help area of Barnes & Noble but who has the time and money to read them all? Got a favorite?
Melissa
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Only thing that has helped my ex and I is COMMUNICATION between he and I. Our marriage is over and it’s no longer about US, it is ALL about OUR daughter, even though we are divorced we still have to raise her TOGETHER.
Best of luck to you and I completely understand how you feel.
i think that my favourite book is LAYING DOWN THE LAW (for seporated parents) by Dr. Phil
No, I don’t have a favorite parenting book. Personally, there is no perfect way to raise a child. All signs do not point to “married, loving, strict, giving, consistant parenting produce a successful adult” Remember the kids who produced the Columbine High School incident? Parents were married, they had consistant rules, even firm united front…kids came out as murderers. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Do your best.
I have a child from a previous marriage and I can tell you after being divorced almost 13yrs {our daughter is 14} there is not a book out there that will be exactly right for you or your children. The only thing that works is communication between the parents.
Those self-help books won’t help as much as the many chidrens’ books on that subject that are in the libraries today. They are books for the children to read on all levels. They have good illustrations and dialogue that children can relate to. These stories can comfort kids, allow them to see that they are not alone in their situations. Go with them and help look. There is one paperback for juveniles (11-14) called “Happy Ever After” that is good and fun to read. The books for younger children are excellent and help children understand about what is happening. Yes, the kids are going to pit one parent against the other because they have been put in that position. Some parents play along to gain popularity with the kids, which is childish on the adult’s part. Don’t be worn down. Let your children know that you have no control over what goes on at Dad’s and that you are not interested, but when they are in your home, they will follow your rules. Discipline them if they don’t. Do not pity them or give in to them. It is now your responsibility to raise them to be decent people. After all, discipline IS love! It will not be easy, but be brave. And pray a lot. You can do it. God bless you and your children.
Yes, It’s called the Bible and offers you all the instruction you need for any circumstance.
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