Joyful asked:
Are there areas that you feel your parents were over-protective or too sheltered?
I feel like it might have been a little more benificial if my parents had been a little more realistic to live. Maybe telling me about drugs and *** and alcohol, instead of taking a non action, maybe giving a little caution. I feel that its important for me to be honest with my kids about such areas, and still guide and direct my children in the ways of the Lord. Anyone else have opinions on this?
Susan
Are there areas that you feel your parents were over-protective or too sheltered?
I feel like it might have been a little more benificial if my parents had been a little more realistic to live. Maybe telling me about drugs and *** and alcohol, instead of taking a non action, maybe giving a little caution. I feel that its important for me to be honest with my kids about such areas, and still guide and direct my children in the ways of the Lord. Anyone else have opinions on this?
Susan
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im planning to raise my children in the same way my parents raised me, if it worked for me i do not know why it would not work for my children
” raise a child in the way you would have them to go , and when they are old they will not depart from it “………..
Yes I was and yes I did.
Yes.
“from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.” (2 Timothy 3:15)
I was not raised in a Christian home. We DID raise our children in a Christian home. They were allowed to do “normal” things that we felt were safe. We did send them to a Christian school. We told our children about worldly things and warned them of what to avoid. The bottom line is they strayed some, they tried some things that weren’t beneficial, but, they are bringing their children into the fold now and they never completely turned away from the Lord. We have to trust God with our children. He will take care of them according to his will. We are merely the vessel used to deliver the message to them.
I was raised in a Catholic home by immigrants whose religion was also part of their national identity.
It is not part of mine.
They did a great job, don’t get me wrong, and I am forever in their debt.
I, also, am very big on honesty with my kids – on sex, on drugs and on religion.
And on each of the three they are welcome to make their own (informed) decision once they are 18 and out on their own.
Until that time my message is that pot, et al, are illegal drugs, religion is a legal drug, and *** is worth the wait…
Raising people Christian is just going to perpetuate the hypocrisy between how people actually live and the Christian notions of how they SHOULD live. Christian families preach against *** but there is still *** and abortions going on with teens like in the movie THE CIDER HOUSE RULES. A sex-survey including all ages found EXACTLY THE SAME BEHAVIOUR in teens now and people who were teens in the 1940′s! So wake up! Like Susan Powter used to say, “Stop the insanity!” You should not raise your kids Christians like you because Christianity NEVER WORKED! Outsource your kids morally if you want, maybe to some strict Muslim family, but even THAT won’t work. Those kids are now cutting classes during the DAY to attend dances where they can meet the opposite ***! *** is too strong, stronger than religion so don’t even try messing them up!
I was raised in a Fundamental Baptist home. Like you, I knew absolutely nothing about the consequences of sex, drugs, and alcohol (luckily for me I had some common sense). I was so sheltered that I was barely allowed out of the house except to go to church or school. I had very few friends because I was so sheltered that I didn’t know how to socialize. I was deeply unhappy.
When I went away to college, the first year I didn’t do so well because I found out how to socialize and make friends; hence, it’s all I did. That was partially my fault, though. If my parents hadn’t sheltered me like they did, that likely wouldn’t have happened.
I began to doubt Christianity at about age 15. I researched other religions and found Wicca, and when I was 16, started secretly calling myself Wiccan. When I was 19, I turned to Traditional Witchcraft, which is the Path I still follow (I’m now 32.). I intend to raise my child in my Path, but I will encourage her to think outside the box, and if she should choose another Path or another religion entirely, I will be supportive of her.
Also, I will not take the non-action that my parents took. My daughter will be educated on sex, drugs, and alcohol and the dangers surrounding them. She will also not be sheltered like I was. I will be protective, naturally, as all mothers are, but I will not shelter her to the point of ignorance.