Cookie On My Mind asked:
I’m an only child and I’m planning on having at least two children (I **** being an only child, so don’t want to put my kids through that!). But I’ve been thinking – I think I might have difficulty raising two kids because I’m not sure about sibling dynamics. Fortunately, my hubby is one of three kids so he knows all about siblings! How did you fellow only children deal with this issue? Thanks!
Maurice
I’m an only child and I’m planning on having at least two children (I **** being an only child, so don’t want to put my kids through that!). But I’ve been thinking – I think I might have difficulty raising two kids because I’m not sure about sibling dynamics. Fortunately, my hubby is one of three kids so he knows all about siblings! How did you fellow only children deal with this issue? Thanks!
Maurice
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It is pretty much the same principles that you learned in school about sharing. Just apply those rules and take your husband opinion serious and you be fine.Good luck.
I’m an only child as well who is raising 2 kids with #3 on the way. It has been harder than I thought it would be because I really have no idea what is normal between siblings. My oldest was an only child for almost 7 years and I have found a big difference in her since she had a sibling though. She is more caring and sympathetic to other peoples feelings now. We take it one day at a time and learn something new every day and try to enjoy our growing family.
Hey there, I’m an only child and have had 7 boys. There are various age gaps between them. They all get on and they fight – any normal family household. I alway only wanted 2 kids, then number 3 came (?) and I found the more I had the easier it was and that is not to say that the older ones did anything for the little ones – its great – you get yourself into a routine and take each day as it comes. All the kids have different personalities so you cannot predict what the outcome will be – enjoy them all – its like opening a lucky packet and knowing whats inside.
You should check out books on birth order and how it affects family dynamics. We have four and I’ve found these books to be right on target! You really live and learn as personality plays a big part. My #1(boy) and #3(girl) tend to be very much alike personality wise. LIkewise, my #2(girl) and #4(boy) tend to be a lot alike. It’s so weird how it all works out. Numbers 1 and 3 are very mellow kids. Very quiet. If the other two are gone I hardly know there’s even a kid in the house. They can self entertain and have long attention spans. Now, if it’s numbers 2 and 4 at home alone, it’s total chaos. They are in my face constantly and need to be entertained and are constantly on the go. When they are all together, things seem to balance out. They have their little squabbles but in general, they all get along very well. We really try to foster closeness and teach them how to get along well. We are both from families with 2 kids so this has been a learning experience for us both. We wouldn’t trade it for the world! Our kids are a joy to have around. They ***** us up daily and it’s so much fun to see the little people they are becoming. Good luck
I am kinda of a only child. my older brother moved out when i was 8 and i didnt see him tell a year ago. and now i see him all the time. im 19 and my brother is 28 we cant stand each other we fight constantly. and my brothers wife has a girl lilly and a boy trumen. and they always fight to.thats all i have experienced so i cant say much for siblings.